There is no certainty in parenting, we really can’t determine how our kids will turn out as adults. I think that is why we want to control as much as we think we can. We attempt to control our kids environment, their behavior, and their actions.
Here is the real truth: What we are teaches the child more than what we say, so we must be what we want our children to become. –Joseph Chilton Pearce
We cannot give to our children what we don’t have.
We need to take all the energy we use at trying to control our children and use it towards becoming the adult that we want our children to become.
Your children are seeing and watching two ways of doing things in the home. As a child, I watched my Mom go to church while my Dad stayed home and worked in the yard. More than the actions, I saw who each of them were as a person. How they reacted in certain situations, how they took care of themselves, how they treated themselves and others. These are the things that matter.
Your children may be drawn to one parent over another, all you really can control is how you show up. That is all Heavenly Father can ask of us, because that is how He parents. He shows us the right way and gave His son as the perfect example, but He also allows us to see many different ways to live.
When it comes to the Gospel and raising your children as the only member in the home, be the member you want your children to be. The Savior spent His life being who He wanted everyone to be, rather than trying to rule over his disciples. He loved, He taught correct principles, and showed the way. He knew not everyone would follow, but He still loved them. And still does.
As you strive to be the person you hope your children will become, counsel with the Lord for help.
He knows who you can become.
Counsel with the Lord in all thy doings, and he will direct thee for good… Alma 37:37
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